How the hell do you do this!!
 

Im trying to place a spawn point in the mission editer it just wont do it, i end up in the middle of the hill billy country taking me half an hour to get to my map

what type of spawn point are you using?
i`ve just made me first dm map and i noticed that there is a deathmatch spawn instead of the regular primary spawn point.
this worked fine for me.

have you put in Start BLue Player/ Start Red Players as well.
You the host would be Blue Player and need a start point